How do you want to feel at the end of this day?
Reverse engineer it - consider the outcome of your choices and choose to do what aligns with your desire of what will bring you peace.
To consider our outcomes, we need to monitor our inputs. This doesn't just relate to external factors such as environments, relationships/friendships, food, etc it also relates to internal factors such as our script, our values and morals, our boundaries, and the emotions we allow ourselves to feel when something happens.
We need to take back control of our lives, take back control of who we are and who we aspire to be. This isn't about talent, what we own, or who we currently have around us - this is about our attitude. This is about acknowledging you are the only one who has the power to write your script for you -
Don't know what your purpose is? Feel alone, unwanted, or ugly?
Instead of reinforcing the negative script by saying things like: I'm worthless, there's no point trying, they're better off without me... try giving yourself the opportunity to look for a positive by saying something like:
'I may not know or see it yet, but I have a purpose'
'Just because I didn't get it this time doesn't mean I will never get it, I just need to try again'
'I may not have support around me at the moment but now I know I can do it for myself'
'I wouldn't be here if I wasn't meant to be, what can I learn from this?'
'I may not see my beauty right now but I will keep working on it until I do'
Instead of being the person who says 'I want what you have but I don't want to do what you did', be the person who people aspire to be like.
Do you want to be the person who is left paying off debt for the rest of their life because they spent all their time trying to keep up with others? Or would you rather be the person who spends a few hard years working their butts off so they can live a lot more comfortably without debt weighing them down for years to come.
A lot of people want to imitate the outcomes of others but don't want to invest in the process required to get there. The work we do isn't just the physical work we do for money - this also correlates to the inner work we do on ourselves for inner peace.
You may not know where to even begin but I can assure you, you will not get anywhere if you procrastinate and never start at all. Begin with acknowledging your thoughts, gain an awareness of your feelings, consider the external factors in your life. Think about where you would like to be, what would truly make you happy - work back from here, bit by bit cut out the things in your life that don't align with your goals and aspirations and when you're ready replace these with new things that do align with the person you aspire to be.
Invest in yourself and believe in yourself. You are the best investment you will ever and could ever make.
You are smart. You are beautiful. You are one of a kind. You are strong. You are important.